EMPTYING YOUR FEELINGS

A close friend of mine is facing major cardiac surgery.  This knowledge has filled her with stress and anxiety.  She told me, "...at bedtime i am experiencing such anxiety...."
This is something I used to experience, too. 
I have a very easy method for removing it.
It is VERY important to take your time.  Really concentrate and experience each point thoroughly. 
You're in control; you remove the fluid.  At the end you will feel lighter and less anxious. 
I'll be sharing this with my friend .

• sit in a comfortable chair.
• close your eyes.
• listen to your mind
• clear your mind
• accept this experience
• focus on your breathing
• see your body as an empty, clear cyclinder
• fill this same cylinder with a colored liquid.
• notice the color and consistancy of the liquid *
• notice the cylinder is now completely full
• "create" there being faucets at the ends of your fingers and toes
• slowly open these faucets.
• watch the liquid draining out of each faucet
• see that your cylinder is now empty
• take a spatula and remove all remaining traces of liquid
• concentrate on the now empty, clean feeling.

* it's your choice to fill your cylinder with the appropriate color and consistency.
   if someone has anger issues, their cylinder may have red or flaming orange color
   if someone has depression issues, their cylinder may have thick gray or dark liquid.
   you get the idea.

VERY RELEVANT STUFF: ALZHEIMER'S

According to the Alzheimer's Association, there are currently 10 million Americans providing 8.5 billion hours of unpaid care to people with Alzheimer's disease or other dementias.

This Association also states:  "...not only is it very expensive to pay for care in a nursing home, but the patient is someone you  love a lot--a mother, father, spouse.  Someone who has taken care of you, and so it's only natural to want to take care of them." 

Alzheimer's can take a great toll on the physical and emotional well-being, not just of the patient, but of the caregiver as well.

"It's not uncommon for the caregiver to die before the patient...it's a 24/7 job and often the caregiver has no help...it's a long haul, you cannot live like that and survive."

Caregivers must be able to find some respite...a sense of themselves outside of the caregiver role.

The Alzheimer's Association's 24/7 Helpline provides reliable information and support to all who need assistance. Call toll-free anytime day or night at 1-800-272-3900

OUTRAGEOUS OLD WOMAN

I want to live to be an outrageous old woman...

who is never accused of being an old lady

I want to have ten-thousand lovers

in one love.....

one, 70-year-long, lasting love.

I want to get leaner & meaner,

sharp-edged,

the color of the ground....
                                                          
till i discorporate.

Practical Psychology

SAM'S JOURNEY TOWARDS ILLUMINATION

We have all met people who are so prickly and difficult that no one wants to handle them. In most situations walking away is n option, and you escape with no more than ruffled feathers. But some situations are inescapable. You can wait until the thorny personality is gone and moan,"He's just impossible", to a friend. Far better though, it's time to begin skills in practical psychology.

First, take responsibility for your part of the interaction. Animosity is created in your own heart. Even the most impossible person had a mother, and was loved by somebody. If you can deal with your own reaction and take responsibility for it, no other step is more productive.

Detachment is always the best response, because if you can interact without having a reaction, you will be clear-headed enough to make progress in relating to this difficult person.
We all tend to use descriptive words loosely, but it helps to know exactly what is going on.

Clinging types - want to be taken care of and loved. They feel weak and are attracted to stronger people. If desperate, they will cling to anyone. Clinging types cannot be handled with avoidance. They are like Velcro and will stick to you every time you get close. They ignore a polite no, but you can't use direct rejection without making an enemy. Neutrality hurts their feelings and makes them feel insecure.